They say it is important to surround yourself with people who are good for your soul. People who vibrate on the same frequency as you do. People who are good for your growth as an individual.
I am fortunate to have been blessed in abundance with the types of people who have come into my life. The people who are strong, resilient, conscious, steadfast, deep, inherently good. People who have substance. People who are awake and enlightened.
I have a few souls in my life, who possess these qualities. Friends who have become family. Do not get me wrong, I am not saying my biological family do not possess these qualities. They do. However, I will dedicate another post to them. This post is to let those shining lights in my life, know, just how much of an impact they have had on me. Just how much they contribute to my happiness. My growth. My hustle.
In no particular order, I am going to run through a few of these souls and give only a brief summary of the role they play in my life. Because no amount of words would suffice to adequately, describe the actual greatness of these people.
When we nourish ourselves with good people, projects, surroundings, scenery, love, magic, beauty and self-care, we radiate light into the world and continually sharpen our vision, perception, and clarity all at once. This in turn spreads to other beings, which spreads to even more. Remember that one tiny drop can raise an ocean. Keep wanting. Desiring. Doing. Breathing in the sweet things.
Remember. Your vibe attracts your tribe.
This beauty has been in my life for about two years now. What a kind soul. Someone I can laugh with. Someone I can cry with. Someone I can tell my absolute deepest darkest secrets to, knowing there will be no judgement, only support and love. How kind can, one person be? I have no idea; however, I do know I have never seen a limit to her kindness. A soft soul. Highly intelligent. Strong. Enlightened. In the short space that we have known each other, she has been able to witness the most growth and progress that I have ever made in my entire life! She contributed for most of it. She contributed to the change I have made, and she is always the logical person I turn to for advice. She is so balanced. She is just so smart. She inspires me daily, to be a better person. She knows what she wants in life, and that has motivated me to reassess my goals and want to do better. She is a go-getter, an independent girl. She is beautiful and sweet but she is determined and a pillar of strength and wisdom. One cannot cross paths with a soul of this nature and not feel inspired or motivated to be better and do better. Having support and love like that, can truly move mountains. I am so blessed that our journeys crossed paths, because now I have another strong woman in my corner. The world knows nothing of your beauty and splendour. That which you allow those closest to you witness. Not everyone deserves your benevolence and beauty. We are undeserving of such. Words will never be enough to express how much you mean to me. A few words that comes to mind when I think of when I think of you are: gentle, mild-mannered, stable, sympathetic, amicable, and you brim with a strong sense of kind-heartedness and justice. Delicate thoughts, strong creativity and perseverance. Strong inner resilience. You have a pure heart. You flood my soul with happiness and joy. Thank you for choosing to be in my life. Thank you for all that you do. Thank you. I love you.
“An invisible thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, and circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle. But it will never break” – Chinese proverb.
Euri. My sissie boo. I met Euri when I was 11. We were neighbours. Soon became inseparable. We did everything together. Giggled about boys we had crushes on. Watched Rikki lake every day after school together. Played games, ran around the garden, hung out and spoke for hours on end. Euri has always been a guiding light in my life. A source of endless love and support. If I want to tell a story, about something insignificant and mundane, Euri will sit and listen. No matter how insignificant and mundane. She has all the time in the world for me. She always brings such joy and love wherever she goes. Euri has a peace-making nature about her. People cannot be angry around her, because her positive energy is enough to light up any room. Euri, her dad and I shared a special bond. Her dad would pick us up after school, and every day he fetched us and listened patiently about the kind of day we had. What a wonderful man. Rest in peace Uncle Vis. Thank you for the part you have played in Euri and my lives. Euri, you are truly your father’s daughter. You remind me so much of him. With your soft nature, your patience, your peace-making. Your laughter. Your funny but dry jokes. Thank you for choosing to be in my life… and thank you for staying in my life for all these years. You are more than just a friend to me. More than just a neighbour for me. More than all of that. You are a part of my soul. You always have been, and you always will be. I will always be your biggest fan. I love you.
Oh Tanita. My diamond in the sky. My bestie boo. You happened upon my life so randomly, but I am grateful for that random moment, because it brought me one of the best friends I have ever had. You may tell me that red lipstick does not suit me, and I may forget that your favourite colour is pink, but something I will NEVER forget, is how much you mean to me. We can hang out every day for weeks, and then not see each other for months, yet things will always stay the same between us. We have a special bond, and guess what? I will eat sand for you too. Hehe. You seize every opportunity you have to spoil me, and make me feel special. You take every opportunity to show me how much you care. You check in with me EVERY SINGLE DAY without fail, just to know how I am, and how my day was. In the beginning, it was so hard to get you to say you love me, yet now you take every opportunity to do so. We spent the best years of our partying life, together. Making memories. We look back on all those times and laugh at how good they were. I wish to never stop making memories with you. I wish you everything of the best in this life and every other lifetime. I am blessed to be your friend and lucky enough to be your BESTFRIEND. #NONEWFRIENDS lol. Remember that? No need to tell me that, no one will ever replace the space you have in my life. Thank you for caring about my well-being and supporting every decision I have ever made, even though you do not always agree with it. No matter what, I know I can ALWAYS count on you. You know that you can always count on me too. I love you.
Heru Heru, Heru. Heru affectionately addresses me as her pinky poodle. Heru has been a constant in my life for about the same amount of years as Euri. Heru also lived in my neighbourhood, so it was easy to just run up the road and hang out with her. Heru spoils me. Every time I see her, she’s either got the best hugs and cuddles for me. Or the coolest new make up to give me. Or the most delicious food she makes for me. Or straight forward- honest advice for me. Heru is the one person I can count on, to tell me the harsh truths in life. She does so with tact and sensitivity, and always with love and care, but always honest. Heru has never stopped loving me or caring for me. Even when she moved to JHB and I was still in DBN, she would still phone me, for hours at a time, listening to all the things going on in my life. Heru is a blessing from God himself. He handpicked her, to play a vital role in my life. I am immensely grateful for her. My Heru is so selfless and giving, sometimes almost to a fault. She gives her utmost love and respect to those she holds near and dear. Heru, you have saved me on many occasions. From those times of sitting home and watching VH1 while everyone else around us partied, to drawing lame pictures in my economics textbooks, to organizing my many birthday parties. You have always gone out of your way for me. I want you to know how much I appreciate your presence in my life. And how much of a difference your presence in my life actually makes. You are a person of substance and I’m so glad you are my constant. I love you.
The newest member of my tribe. What better way to start a new year, new job, new city with my Ko-Pilot? This year has had ups and downs for the both of us, but you have been by my side through it all. Kolean and I share some core values which makes our friendship so effortless. We both have an undying and ever fierce love for God. We both value Education and Academics as highly important in our lives. Kolean is one of those sincere genuine people who will actually listen to every word you say. Even if it is the same things over and over, she just gives you all her attention. It is the most simple things, like she genuinely respects my suggestions. If I send her the name of a song, or the link to a video, she goes ahead and listens, or watches and tells me how much she has enjoyed it and that means a lot to me. Kolean, I learn from you everyday. You are never afraid to share your knowledge. I love the fact that you are unashamed to love God so much. I would not have made it through this year without you. Every second I spend with you, makes me realize how grateful I am for your presence in my life. Thank you for being my road trip partner, and for bringing me food whenever you cook something amazing. Thank you for your love and support this year. I know our friendship will continue to grow and flourish for many years to come. I love you.
To all these strong, beautiful ladies in my life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. You mean the world to me.
To those of you reading, I hope you make the decision to surround yourself with people who are good for your soul.
During my time at college, I heard someone say “I would rather eat crumbs with bums, than steaks with snakes” and it loosely translates to: I would rather be struggling but be with people who wish well for me, rather than eating expensive food with people who resemble snakes in our lives.
That saying resonated with me. It lingered and it stayed, and as I grew older, it would appear to make more and more sense to me.
Go where you are celebrated, go where you are appreciated, go where you are loved. Do not settle for any less than that.
Make conscious decisions and choices about the type of energy you want to allow in your life and in your space.
It is said that if you want to know about someone, look at the type of friends they keep. I am proud to say my wonderful friends are all reflections of me and I of them. They are beautiful, successful, accomplished, intelligent, kind, loving, genuine and sincere.
My dearest readers, I wish you the best with your friendships and all your relationships. Choose wisely. As always, I wish peace, love and light.
Below are pictures of the angels I wrote about. Enjoy!